Ingrid Lotze & Gavin Moffat
Topic: A venture into vanquishing violence – How do we vanish GBV together?
It’s never been more important to #CultivateConnection among humans than right now, and the fact that we don’t need to justify that to you, speaks volumes.
Ingrid Lotze and Gavin Moffat draw on hard-learned lessons to share their all-too-common story about a South African woman and her children, verbally and physically abused. They break down some of the complexities around #GenderMatters, in the process sharing their vision to #CultivateConnection between #AllGenders and also provide actions that can be taken today to help #StopSGBV.
They share their insights on the 3 focus areas that can shift the dial in creating a safer space for women, children and men:
- Bias and behaviour – understanding how the one affects the other
- Recognising abuse – because it comes in many forms
- Being part of the solution – a couple of simple actions that could change a life
The story behind the presentation #CultivatingConnection: We’re in this together
It’s an inspirational story. A sad story. An all too common story in South Africa. A tale of a South African woman and her children, verbally and physically abused. A woman who wasn’t helped by either her family or her friends. Maybe because they did not know what to do or how to help.
It’s a story of shame, guilt, wanting to try that little bit harder because, ‘he’ll change’. It’s a story about recovery, courage, building a new life and finding a way to work through the demons. Creating a world for herself and her two children.
It’s a story of a man who comes into her life, gives her the space to be what she needs to be, gives her the time she needs to begin healing, provides her and her children with safety, comfort and helps to sow the seeds for a new life.
It’s a story about Hers&His and the recovery journey Ingrid Lotze and Gavin Moffat have travelled. How they have taken their hard-learned lessons and built a program around #CultivatingConnection using #BeCurious and Appreciative Inquiry as tools for creating meaningful conversations to change the world through healthy forging relationships.
Is it a nice, safe, pleasant story? No. You’re going to feel some discomfort because hey, we’re talking about sexual and gender-based violence. This isn’t a fairy tale. There are no happy endings until SGBV is ended, across the world. No happy endings until women, men and children no longer feel threatened and unsafe to be who they are.
It is a story worth hearing because learning what SGBV actually is, how to spot it, and how to assist is an answer to creating a safe world that our children will thrive in.
They share their insights on the 3 focus areas that can shift the dial in creating a safer space for women, children and men:
- Bias and behaviour – understanding how the one affects the other
- Recognising abuse – because it comes in many forms
- Being part of the solution – a couple of simple actions that could change a life
Not everyone has the chance to live happily-ever-after but this woman and man got married, and live a relatively “happily ever after” existence, working to help others find theirs. But it’s still not a fairy tale because fairy tales aren’t real.
Who are Ingrid and Gavin?
As business partners for 22 years and married for 14 years, Ingrid and Gavin spend most days together working, working-out, as dive buddies and as life partners. Spending so much time together has offered many lessons over the years.
Ingrid has been active in the Women Within International community (operating under Women For Africa in SA) for the past 6 years and co-founded “Teens-to-Queens”, a program for teenage girls that helps young women find their place and voice in the world. Gavin has been part of ManKind Project (MKP) since 2010 serving on Jhb and National councils and has fulfilled various roles.
One of the businesses they co-founded, Hers&His, was born out of a passion for #CultivatingConnection. Through Hers&His they deliver corporate programs, training sessions, keynote speeches, workshops, dialogue sessions and co-gender groups that are focused on creating cohesion between humans. Labelled DE&I by some, Ingrid & Gavin call it bringing in the ‘AND’. As depicted in the ampersand in their logo, their drive is to bring about an attitude and behavior of ‘AND’ instead of either/or.
To the wrongs that need resistance,
Carrie Chapman Catt
To the right that needs assistance,
To the future in the distance,
Give yourselves.
Company profile: Hers&His
Hers&His focusses on helping organisations move their Diversity Equity and Inclusion (DE&I) dial, within their teams, where it’s needed most and has the greatest impact on business results.
Born from a passion to build gender equality, Hers&His focusses on unleashing the untapped and diverse potential of the power of their people.
This outcomes-focused approach is delivered through several interventions, workshops, trainings and programs that help organisations navigate the complicated and fraught space of DE&I.
The vision to co-create a world of gender parity and equality in their lifetime through
#CultivatingConnection empowers corporates in not only building diverse teams, but also embedding inclusion into the culture of the organisation.
H&H provides consulting, training and transformation journey’s on the tough stuff that few know how to address. Sexual harassment in the workplace, SGBV, unconscious bias, gender equality, diversity and inclusion.
Engaging, impactful, skillfully-guided and measurable are the words reflecting H&H interventions.
Appreciative Inquiry is the foundation on which the company stands, and with that comes shifts in attitude and behaviors that make transitions easier, smoother and more impactful.
For more information:
https://www.linkedin.com/company/hersandhis/
https://www.facebook.com/hersandhisnow
https://jointhedots.academy/training-courses/
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